The elusive soul mate, the one. Is there any such thing? Is there only one person out there? How will I know when I have met my soul mate?
These are questions that many of Sydney clairvoyant Paul Fenton-Smiths clients ask him every day, his response is what are you doing prepare yourself for love. People are presented with many love opportunities during their lifetime, however; they are often not prepared for them, as they are hung up on the past or ideals and their soulmate slips away.
According to Fenton-Smith there are four steps to preparing yourself for love.
1. Get into the present, stop yearning for the past (past loves, the way it was), stop constantly dreaming about the future. Focus on the now. Many people are hung up on ex lovers, and how they were treated in the past. This is what we know as baggage. Learn to let go of the past forgive and realise that it is not indicative of the future. If you carry around the emotional baggage, you will scare off potential new lovers and continue attracting the same lovers repeatedly. Constantly dreaming about the future and how it is going to be can also be harmful, when somebody comes along that is not exactly as he or she appears in your daydream you may not notice them, and they slip away again
2. Know what you truly want in a partner, and knowing and believing that you deserve to be happy. It is common to make a list of desirable attributes we want in a partner, but do you truly believe that you deserve this ideal person? You need to believe in yourself, that you are an amazing loving person that deserves to be with someone that makes you happy.
3. Think about what you bring into the relationship. That is when you find Mr or Ms Right, what have you got to offer them (remember they probably have a list too). Are you feeling negative due to past relationships? Have you been less than kind yourself perhaps? Are you ready to love and care for someone with all your heart? When you have cleared your past and ready to totally love again then you are ready to meet your new love.
4. Look back to your first love and understand the way it has shaped what you seek in a partner today. And learn to get past it! Yes, our first love has a significant impact on us, and this is not just our first romantic love, it can be based on our parent. In fact many psychologist will tell you that people tend to find partners that similar to their opposite sex parent.
Paul Fenton-Smith quotes a lovely story about a client of his who wanted to find a man with a hairy chest. Why? Well with a bit of counselling it turned out that her father had a hairy chest and he adored her and spent a lot of time with her, and listened to her. So she associated men with hairy chests as good caring listeners. And as our brains are hard wired in our young years, it is difficult to change the way we think regardless of the contradictory evidence staring us in the face. So regardless of how many hairy chested men she dated in her adult life that were not good caring listeners, the association did not go away until it was confronted. So confront your expectations and beliefs!
To help you find your soulmate Paul Fenton Smith has put together a CD of meditations called Finding Your Soulmate to help you clear your past and get ready to move forward. And as I have had my own struggles in finding love I want to help you find that special someone. I am offering Paul Fenton Smith CD Finding Your Soulmate for $24.95, which is below what you will find it for in store ($29.95)
To help speed up the process and find your love quickly I have put together a Finding a Soulmate Pack that includes: the Finding your Soulmate CD to prepare your self for love, and the Crystal Ritual to Find Love, to call your soulmate when you are ready for just $33.95. This is the ritual I used two weeks before I met my husband.
Good luck, and if you ever want to talk about finding your soul mate further please feel free to contact me.
